Healthy relationships between friends, school or work colleagues, family or partner are based on support, good communication, trust, honesty, equality and mutual respect. Feeling an emotional, physical, intellectual and sentimental connection with someone is wonderful, however, forming a couple and building a good relationship requires a lot of work on the part of both ; in a healthy relationship the two of you should feel connected, but at the same time continue to perceive each other as independent human beings.
Defining the concept ‘healthy relationships’ is not so simple since relationships are not the same for all people because we all have different needs; however, we can say that a healthy relationship is the one that contributes to our sense of fulfillment and happiness. but how do you know when a relationship is no longer healthy? Here are some tips for building a healthy relationship:
- Love yourself, doing for yourself what you do for the person you love will make you a happier person.
- Accept yourself as you are, with your virtues and your imperfections, do not try to change your partner or believe that over time something will change at will.
- Support each other, a strong relationship can be considered a team building great moments, working together and looking out for each other.
- Communicate, talk to your partner about how you feel, talking about what bothers you builds trust and strengthens the relationship.
- Keep your promises, do not break the trust that your partner has placed in you, commit to the relationship
- Forgive each other, we all make mistakes; You must be willing to apologize for your mistakes and forgive your partner’s faults.
- Allow yourself some space, it is good that you each have your own friends and interests outside of the relationship.
- Acknowledge when you don’t agree on something, as you won’t always have the same opinions and that’s okay; the important thing is to respect the ideas of both.
- Respect each other, remember that your partner’s desires and feelings are worth as much as yours.
- Be an honest person about what you do, think, and feel; This way you will create a stronger bond of trust with your partner.
Warning signs to detect that a relationship is NOT healthy
Sometimes it can be difficult to know when behavior is turning from healthy to abusive, however, paying attention to the following signs can help you spot an abusive situation in your relationship :
- Controlling or possessive attitude. Isolating yourself financially, emotionally, or physically from your friends and family. Exaggeratedly jealous of the slightest insecurity or belief of loss of control over you. Sudden aggressive behavior, even towards material things. Any pushing, pulling, or physical damage done with the intent to hurt you. Continually put yourself down, especially when in the presence of your family and mutual friends. Review without your consent your social media accounts , email or phone. Partner abuse is based on control and power , and although you may not want or be able to end your relationship at this time, remember that your main priority should always be respect for your dignity and comprehensive security; as no one deserves to be abused in any way, for any reason. Living as a couple, remember: You have the right to decide what activities you want to do and with whom. You have the right to say NO at any time. You have the right to privacy. You have the right to feel respect and safety. You have the right to end a relationship that is not healthy for you.